Learned in grief
Keep the leftovers, put them into the freezer so later you'll have food you can just heat and eat.
Hug the person who needs hugged right now; use paper plates as often as you need to.
Wash dishes together and let the housework slide; the house will still be there but you and your children need each other right now.
Set appointments with therapists for each of you, as you feel inspired to do so. I went into therapy appointments with each of my two youngest children, and at first with my teenage daughter as well, because they wanted me there. I gave them the option, and we grew together.
The relationships you are growing while homeschooling are priceless; you get to learn how to support each other in all the phases of grief. However, you also need someone you can vent to, a therapist of your own, and you need babysitting so you can take time out for yourself.
I was advised to get a massage every so often, because I need touch; I chose not to do that. Instead I became even more of a hugger, someone who hugs whomever needs and wants a hug. I learned to ask first; not everyone wants a hug, but many people seek out hugs now that they know I want to hug them. I also touch my feet and my arms, intentionally, to help myself calm, to give skin feedback; it really helps me feel better.
Take as long as you need for school; there's no deadline when you're homeschooling. It's all learning, everything you do every day. I found, with life insurance, that I could pay for some classes we couldn't afford before; that has been a blessing to us. My son found he loved theater.
There's a homeschool theater group in our town that puts on a different play each semester. I also set up a lot of park days with friends, so children could play and I could sit with other parents and just talk. That is very healing, to hear other people's experiences and tell them your joys and your frustrations.
You can choose which parents and which children to spend time with; listen to the Holy Ghost and don't dismiss people because they don't look like you or don't believe the same things. Behavior is Much More Important than stated belief. If they treat you with respect and love, hold onto them and treat them with respect and love, also.
Don't worry too much about what your children will believe when they get older. Every person has to grow their own testimony, including you. It's most important that you listen and love, and that you help them learn how to find information and how to decide if information is reliable, how to listen to the Holy Ghost and how to act on what they feel inspired to do.
Automate as much of the bill paying as you can, so you don't have to spend time on it.
Simplify your house and your schedule; cut out everything that isn't absolutely vital, then let back in only the things you feel inspired to keep. Ditch the unnecessary or just ignore it, set it down, let it rest until years from now, when you will have more energy.
The sun will come up in your life. It will. It takes time.
Remember your prayers and scripture study yourself, and with your children.
Listen to good music, music that expresses emotion, and then music that calms. Dramatic music is good--it gets those intense emotions going--and then you need to bring it back down so people can sleep. Plus you can dance, listen to pop music that cheers you, humor--Weird Al and crazy kids songs--things that make you and your children laugh.
I'm smiling at you; it will be okay. You will grow in wisdom and understanding, but God's not going to just hand it to you. You learn how to swim In the Water. You can do this.
